Intimacy Coaching
For singles and couples
Together, we make it safer and more joyful to ask for what you want in sex, dating & love.
Without making yourself smaller….or tying your worth to their answer.
Because your desires don’t make you the villain.
They make you more attractive & trust-worthy.
I coach on ….
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🍆 Sex
How do you relate to your sex life? Does it feel joyful and free? Or do you struggle with pleasing your partner? Orgasming? Knowing what you want? Communicating your desires? Getting aroused? I support you to feel shame-FREE in sex, so that sex becomes a place of unapologetic self-expression.
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🍷 Dating
Dating can feel FULL of pressure. But scarcity mindset is REAL. You fear being seen as desperate, disrespectful, anxious, or “too available”. 🤯 So it feels like you’re treading on eggshells. You want to find ease & confidence in flirting & expressing attraction— whether in romantic or casual connections.
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❤️🔥 Love
When you’re in a long-term committed relationship, conflict & triggers come up. Couples struggle to collaborate because there is so much pain. Whether it’s about opening up the relationship, no longer having sex, or feeling unloved - there’s an opportunity here for deepening. ❤
Does any of this sound familiar? 👇🏼
You've read the books. Maybe you've done therapy. You understand your patterns intellectually. But something still freezes up in you. You go along with what they want, or you say nothing at all, and afterwards you're quietly resentful.
Maybe it's in bed - you know what would feel good, but you can't say it.
Maybe it's in dating - you soften what you actually want so you don't scare them off. Maybe it's in your relationship - you want more, but you don't know how to say it without it becoming a whole thing.
The problem isn't that you don't know yourself. It's that somewhere along the way, you learned that wanting clearly — or asking openly — wasn't safe. And that belief is still quietly running the show. ❤
That's what we change. 💪🏼
Book a free discovery call
After our call …
We’ll know if we are a fit. 😉 I’ll send you a follow-up email with an intake form and a personalised roadmap of your journey. 🗺️📍The price of our 4 month container is:
for a deeper transformation over 4 months that includes
👉🏼 8 x 70 min sessions
👉🏼 recordings & summaries of sessions
👉🏼 async support through whatsapp
👉🏼 personalised homework (and accountability)
👉🏼 a clear vision that I support you to build towards week on week
You are also welcome to a trial single session (70 mins) with me at £130, just click the link.
£1200
The Coaching Journey
1️⃣ De-conditioning
How do you feel pressured to show up in dating & sex? Who do you think you need to be: to be loved, to be desired, or considered “good in bed”? Let’s start to move away from validation & approval-based scripts, to more of what YOU want. Let’s empower you to make choices that feel good to you. Have sex on your terms. Date on your terms. Receive pleasure on your terms.
2️⃣ Embodiment
…but wait! You probably don’t know what sex is like on your terms, because you’ve numbed yourself and treated your body like a brain taxi for so many years. 🧠🚕 Let’s shift your attention to your body, so you can slowly follow the signals of what you want ✅ and don’t want 🚫. Being embodied will help you connect with your desires and your boundaries.
3️⃣ Worthiness
So now, you’ve noticed what you want. But do you feel worthy of your desires? When we finally get in touch with our desires, we inevitably touch our anger and our grief. We realise how much we’ve been pleasing and living for others. Can you welcome and approve of your messy feelings, without judging them or minimising them? Will you allow yourself to have what you truly want?
4️⃣ Playfulness, Flirting, Creativity
Now we’ve cried, we’ve grieved, we’ve connected to our body, and our desires…… let’s learn to PLAY. To have a smoking hot sex life, we need to be comfortable with rejection! I notice we really fear this.
Prepare for a dose of improv, role-play and silliness in sessions. We will let go of agenda, and step into a new paradigm of sex or dating.
5️⃣ Communication
And finally - my favourite super power. Communication. This is such an important pillar 🏰 but we often skip the essential “feeling” stuff first and then wonder why our partner isn’t responding to our “perfect NVC” communication! 😂 You’ll learn to expertly navigate vulnerable topics & crunchy conversations. You’ll learn to initiate sex conversations with ease & levity. You’ll learn to share your desires and boundaries in the moment, and share honest feedback with your partner … tactfully!
FAQ’s
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After you fill an intake form, I’ll draw up a roadmap that will steer us over the 8 sessions and make clear your goal and the skills for us to work on.
A coaching session usually opens with you sharing what’s been happening for you lately in your sex/dating life. We’ll then choose an area to focus. From there we’ll do a mixture of reflecting and interactive exercises. I don’t just engage in “talk” - I will often ask you to check how your body is responding to a certain question or situation! If it’s a more therapeutic session, we’ll follow a flow inspired by Internal Family Systems therapy. If it’s more “teach-y”, I’ll get us to practice certain tools or communication role-plays.
Most of the time the session is tailored to what’s built upon since the last session, that help us move towards our goal. -
Depending on how you learn best and what our goal is, I could set you a chapter to read (e.g. about sex drive types), a podcast (e.g. how to feel your feelings, or what your erotic blueprint is) or a framework to nerd on.
I will supplement that with a practical exercise, which could include:
👉🏼the 3 minute game with a friend
👉🏼 a pleasure/touch based exercise
👉🏼 actively practicing a skill we’ve learnt
👉🏼 reflecting on questions I’ve set
👉🏼 a conversation to have with your partner
👉🏼 tracking parts in yourself that are activated! -
You will only ever be invited to share :) It’s up to you how much!
All my clients have felt comfortable to share about their sex life (I have pretty much heard it all ;)) Where relevant, I will share just as candidly too, so it doesn’t feel one-sided! -
In my experience video calls have been just as effective as face-to-face sessions. ❤️ So my practice has been 85% online. That said, I can occasionally offer in-person. I’m based in London so let me know if this is a desire.
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I would suggest a minimum of 8 sessions. Usually clients renew on a rolling-basis after for a total of 12-15 sessions.
This depends on our relationship together, the depth of your goal, and where you are on the journey. Some clients may need more time to work. The key is to not rush the process and to give yourself time to reflect on what you're really thinking and feeling. -
Great question! I have found there are a few key conditions to accelerating the journey:
👉🏼 You have a certain level of self-awareness in place already (this is not your first “self development” investment)
👉🏼 You’re keen to do the homework in between class
👉🏼 You proactively schedule sessions with me that are 2-4 weeks apart.
👉🏼 You are willing to be honest, reflect and FEEL your feelings.
👉🏼 You’re willing to take small risks during our sessions that feel outside your comfort zone!
👉🏼 You reflect on the discussions we have after sessions and share them with me (where relevant) -
Nope, sex & intimacy coaching is fully clothed with no touch involved.
Suggestions for (intimate or non-intimate) touch exercises may be given for you to practice at home though! -
The main thing is: do we click? ❤️
I’ll share a little bit about my practice & answer any specific questions you have about the coaching process. 🙌🏼
The rest of the time I’ll ask you juicy questions about the area of sex/dating you’ve come to me for! I will help you breakdown what is going on (i.e. what you’re not seeing) and what’s in-between you and your goal — so you have more clarity. We’ll decide together if we will feel like a right fit for each other! 🌱 -
Yes, it can be super complementary to work with a therapist and a coach. Let’s talk about it in our initial free call!
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To me, intimacy is about vulnerability and revealing the masks we wear. I'm aware most of my clients are intelligent and quite heady. So my sessions are very somatic. In other words, I’m getting us to slow down and feel - enough to notice the subtle signs of forcing, people pleasing or resistance in your body that’s masking anger or fear. I have typically found online sessions to be better than in-person because you’re in the comfort of your home, so there’s a safety in place that helps you drop in even deeper.
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Sadly, I don’t offer discounts for my coaching package, but if you are feeling committed to this work and not sure how to afford this, I would love to hear from you. We can collaborate on a solution to make it possible. 🫶🏼
Regarding instalments, you are welcome to spread out the cost of coaching in 2-3 instalments at an added admin cost of 4%. Just ask. ♥️ -
It depends on your goal. Eight sessions is definitely a big shift.
However the majority of my clients do renew for a further 4-8 sessions because they can see the significant gains they are having in their life, and want to keep gong further. So more realistically it may be 12-15 sessions that we have together.
We’ll have a free ‘check-in’ call after those 8 sessions, to assess where we’re at, take stock of your progress, and see what you need in your next chapter!
“Haneen is exactly the kind of sex and intimacy coach you would want - she is a wonderful listener, asks great curious questions and embodies a humble confidence when it comes to talking about all things sex! It is not a topic many find easy to discuss but she does it with so much warmth, playfulness and openness! She is also an incredible source of knowledge and experience.”
“After a string of disasters in my dating life, I felt inadequate and had little idea how to navigate modern dating & flirting. When I started working with Haneen, we dove deep into the parts of me that held a lot of unconscious stories that sabotaged my confidence in dating. From there, I started to understand what I ACTUALLY wanted, which allowed me to date more intentionally and make truly authentic connections. When I compare where I am today with where I was less than a year ago, the result has been nothing short of transformational. ”
“I can’t express how deeply transformative the experience of working with Haneen has been. I’ve found parts of myself I didn’t know existed and feel so motivated to continue doing this inner work and help destigmatise conversations around sex and intimacy in my circles.. You are a Queen, Haneen ❤️ Through our sessions, I realised I had been conditioned to be in service to men. I was de-prioritising myself & giving away my power. I now channel all this energy into my own desires.
I came into the coaching journey wanting to embody more empowerment and expansiveness, and I have come so far on these. I always felt so listened to, so safe and held. And all the exercises were so on point and so powerful - Haneen is excellent at keeping you accountable to these ;)
Honestly, working with Haneen has clarified what I want to do in my life.”
“My partner and I felt so nervous and tense about this call, struggling to align on our intention. However it only took a few minutes for Haneen to read the environment and set up a comfortable space, without expectation or pressure, to chat about topics that we weren’t used to. Haneen translated and interpreted feelings, fears and emotions throughout the session in an incredibly light way while at the same time bringing methodology and structure to the chat. The intentionality in the questions helped us paint a picture of each other and for each other - it was a beautiful balance. The session felt like one long exhale, ending with a beautiful long hug together.”