Say the Hard Thing
A 6-week online communication course that makes deep authenticity in relationships possible. Join us Mondays, from 12 Oct 2026
Y’know when you’re triggered by that annoying colleague at work, the friend that didn’t consider you, the boss that overlooks you, the critical parent ….
Expressing your boundaries & needs can be deeply uncomfortable. But it doesn’t have to be.
We want to empower each of you so that difficult conversations are no longer something you avoid - but embrace.
Because, truthfully, that’s how intimacy is built.
Georgie & Haneen are masters in this art - their lightness, thoughtfulness & passion immensely inspiring. Perfect role models. - Karen
I almost called this course “Because I love you”
WHY GO ON THIS JOURNEY?
🌳 "What if I’m too much?" – maybe you've served the role of mediator growing up, and developed a belief that having needs makes you a burden to others.
🌳 "My communication techniques backfire" –you focus on HOW to say things (like an enlightened therapist 😇) but when you try to use perfect non violent communication, your partner feels patronised.
🌳 “The same patterns keep coming up” – you often get stuck in the same story & over-analyse. It’s hard to connect to your body, and change your response.
🌳 “What’s my responsibility and what’s yours ?” – maybe you think everything is your fault, or you find yourself wanting to change your friend/partner!
🌳 “I can’t control my reactions, I either freeze or get defensive!” – your emotions get the best of you, and you struggle to regulate yourself when you’re triggered.
Beautiful relationships take work. But no one ever tells you what the work is.
This course does.
We hold back from expressing our own authentic desires, needs, and boundaries, because we are terrified of losing connection.
But authenticity & connection go together.
When we lean into difficult conversations with love, it leads to greater trust and intimacy.
Say the Hard Thing
Our next cohort starts in Oct/Nov 2026.
Transform Conflict into Connection is a programme to help you build more authenticity & intimacy in your relationships. Many of us struggle to lean into difficult conversations & conflict because we worry it will be uncomfortable.
This course will give you the confidence to speak up (with ease!) when a connection doesn't feel good so you can ask for your needs & build deeper relationships as a result!
What’s Included
💻 6 Weeks Online Training
Online sessions allow for focussed integration. You'll master one important tool a week using role-play, and receive tailored feedback. All trainings take place on a weekday evening
(7-9pm UK time).
👯♀️ Co-Led by 2 Experts in Different Fields
By Haneen (sex & relationship coach) and Georgie Nightingall (conversation and human connection specialist) so you have two expert coaches supporting your journey.
📚 Access to Cheat Sheets, Templates & Demos of Difficult Conversations
See these tools used in relatable, REAL-LIFE conversations! We’ll illustrate common mistakes & what to avoid and contrast this with “best practice” conversations.
📼 Complete recordings of workshop sessions for life
With lifetime access to the recordings, you can return to the material when you need it. Communication is a lifelong practice.
✅ Summaries of Teachings
We'll cover a lot of material. Weekly summaries will help you stay on top of things and apply it in your life.
🔥 Access to Discounted Coaching
Want to integrate the course more deeply? Get discounted coaching with Georgie or Haneen for 3 months after the course.
🤝 Conflict Lab Practices
Get that practice time in!! Try out a difficult conversation with direct feedback from Georgie or Haneen, before you try them out in real life. We highly encourage using these labs!
👏 Community of Like-Minded Humans
Learning is most powerful in groups. Get accountability, inspiration and opportunities to practice alongside an inspiring cohort.
What our students are saying.
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An unmissable experience for anyone who wants to deepen their awareness of their own patterns and how to navigate those in conflict with others. Haneen and Georgie have crafted a comprehensive and laser-focused course to help participants prepare physically, emotionally, mentally and energetically to approaching difficult conversations.
Lizzy
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Powerful. Compassionate. Inspiring. Haneen & Georgie took us on a voyage of discovery, uncovering patterns & behaviours in a gentle & curious way, enabling us to see what is going on during conflict - both within ourselves & between parties. We covered a huge range of material, illustrating how much there is to learn, yet breaking it into bite sized chunks so that we can work on things bit by bit as we put the knowledge into practice. I feel like my eyes have been opened & I know where I want to go.
Karen
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I did another more corporate course right after this one and the difference could not have been starker. Haneen and Georgie are knowledgeable, skilled, warm, committed to each participants' experience. The quality of their listening is incredible. They give thorough feedback and work so well together.
Cecile
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In a challenging world, if more people embraced the wisdom that was shared by Georgie & Haneen, we could live in a kinder, more creative & more peaceful community. I can’t recommend more highly joining the movement and turning conflict to connection.
Karen (pt. 2)
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This program has been a delightful surprise as I had high expectations and it exceeded them. I now find myself starting a journey which I believe will lead me to deeper and more meaningful relationships where I don't fear friction and conflict destroying them. On the contrary they could be pathways to more meaningful connection.
Nilu
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The awareness this has given me is huge. The transformational conversation increased awareness of others around me and the conflict course has made me more aware of my role in 'conflict'. Understanding my triggers has been a huge leap forward into this journey of conflict. I cannot thank you both enough
Josie
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Who it’s for
This programme is not for everyone. It is an embodied exploration of conflict and connection. We’ll be diving DEEP; examining our destructive relationship patterns and beliefs, exploring and expressing our feelings in real-time, and moving our bodies.
This is for you if…
✅ You’re committed to working through difficult conversations with your current close relationships.
✅ You want to gain confidence in your ability to handle conflict empathetically and directly.
✅ You’re interested in experiencing how conflict can ACTUALLY create deeper intimacy.
✅ You’d like to give feedback effectively and increase your chances of being heard & understood
✅ You’re eager to to feel your feelings, connect to your body & know what you need.
✅ Nice to haves: You’ve explored somatic practices, done the inner work, you’re familiar with some language tools, you’re aware of what makes you feel like crap and what makes you feel good.
This is not for you if…
❌ You don’t have examples of close relationships where you WANT to show up and go through difficult conversations.
❌ You’re not motivated to put in the work outside of the programme. You won’t change your relationships if you don’t experiment in everyday life.
❌ You’re undergoing major mental health concerns and hope this will substitute for therapy.
❌ It’s challenging for you to identify what you are thinking & feeling in the present moment. You’re unable to identify when you’re reactive or triggered.
❌ You expend a lot of energy wishing “things were different”. You’re not interested in looking inward towards yourself & examining your beliefs.
❌ You can’t attend 60% of the sessions – we want as much live attendance as possible.
Hi! We’re Haneen & Georgie
We're best friends with a love for playfulness, personal growth, trainings galore and dancing. When we met in 2017, Haneen played a massive role in Georgie's dance addiction & connection to her sensuality. Georgie opened the doorway to deep, meaningful conversations for Haneen with her original conversation events. Since then, we have explored some of the world - hiking in Austria and Yosemite, dancing 24-hour Zouk marathons in Europe and attending Burning Man.
Georgie Nightingall is a coach, facilitator, experience designer and PhD researcher (focusing on human connection design). Her mission is to make the world more human through the lost art of conversation and human connection. Since founding Trigger Conversations in 2016, she’s created global transformational conversation training programmes for individuals, universities, conferences and organisations. Her course invites you to strip the work labels, go beyond small talk and be real.
Haneen Khan is a lawyer turned intimacy coach. On a cheeky mission to help you feel joyful & connected to your desires in sex, dating & relating, her playful workshops encourage you to break free of old scripts, so you can step into truthful intimacy.
Haneen blends her training of the last 8 years in Internal Family Systems Therapy, Non-Violent Communication, Wheel of Consent, and Improv Theatre, with her personal obsessions in kink & ENM.
In her practice, Haneen coaches self-aware, "therapied" high-achievers to
- get out of their head and into their body, so they can access what they really want.
- voice their desires in bed, in dating, in love - without fearing rejection
- address difficult conversations your partner(s), with intentionality and care.
In all the crazy adventures, & collaborations & living together- we've had pleeeenty of clashes in our conflicting needs. So much opportunity to repair, be raw & honest. We definitely don't hold back and cherish our deeply loving culture of feedback in our friendship. And we want to give these tools to YOU!
“To say this is a “Conflict Course” is to completely underestimate the transformative value of increasing your awareness in how you connect and communicate with other humans... I gained greater confidence, clarity and awareness to navigate conversations on various levels of engagement and friction - this is truly life-changing work.”
Siobahn
Is it possible to build a deeply trusting & honest connection with someone?
WHAT CHANGES AFTER THIS COURSE?
Yes. IT'S TOTALLY POSSIBLE. Let me paint a picture of how your world may change after this course….
Imagine you feel hurt or offended by something your friend or colleague says or does. Instead of pretend smiling & brushing it off, you gently pause your friend and share that you're not as present as you want to be. You ask if they would be happy to hear what's on your mind. You share candidly what you feel, which is a little sensitive and emotional. Your delivery might be clumsy, but you're courageous, and you trust that your experience is valid and worthy of attention.
You share your hurt openly, taking responsibility for what it touches in you. You can identify what's happening in your body and what you need.
What is the Curriculum?
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Before we learn to GIVE feedback, let’s become masters at RECEIVING feedback.
When someone gives us feedback, we often feel shame (like we did something “wrong”). This shame blocks us from really connecting with the person and receiving their feedback graciously. In this session, you will learn how to respond to triggering feedback through apologising, reflecting, curiosity, sharing honestly, and celebrating this person's request or boundary.
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When is the ‘right’ time to initiate a difficult conversation? You might worry it’s never the right time, or surely the person will be unreceptive. Setting up & framing difficult conversations is important because it creates a shared understanding of the conversation.
In this session, we will explore how to successfully set up the context for a tricky conversation by helping you decide the ‘best’ time to initiate a conversation, share positive collaborative intent, and get consent before sharing.
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Feedback can often sound icky because the language is laden with blame, assumptions and a lack of curiosity. For example, 'You made me feel...'
No one can make us feel a certain way - we are responsible for our reactions and the stories we create. When we speak in a way that owns our experience, we can express our truth, be less likely to trigger the person, and instead stay in connection with them.
We will learn to understand the difference between observations and stories, identify and name feelings, speak from the "I", and make generous assumptions.
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It’s often easier to complain or criticise others rather than make specific requests around your needs. We know what we don’t like! But not necessarily what we want to be different.
Sharing our needs can help another person connect to us because they understand how to take care of you without needing to guess your needs. When we learn how to frame this as a doable request, we become more aware of what we want from others, and it helps increase the chances we will get our needs met.
In this session, we will explore the specific situation that is playing out, how to identify your needs and desires, how to frame them positively, and how to feel confident to make direct requests in an owned way.
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We will look at the ways you get triggered & your repeated patterns of conflict. Do you tend to take the role of people-pleaser, hot-headed bully, or hopeless victim? Become more aware of your shame response as it’s happening, so you can stop sabotaging connection to yourself & others.
🛠 Nervous System Theory 🛠 Drama Triangle 🛠 Internal Family Systems
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We will use the Internal Family Systems Theory to understand ourselves as a system of parts, led by a core Self. We'll map and get to know the parts of ourselves that show up in conflict. This will enable more self-compassion, less reactivity and more ownership of our role in conflict dynamics.
🛠 Internal Family Systems -
If you struggle to access anger, sadness & hurt - we are going to help you FEEL these. When we don’t give space to our emotions & feelings, our loved ones FEEL that. They actually feel the impulse to run away or get defensive. On Day 2, you will learn to move through difficult emotions quicker & expand your capacity for discomfort. You will no longer need to “control” your feelings. You will become more comfortable with your feelings, which will allow you to connect to their wisdom, too!
🛠 Conscious Leadership 🛠 Existential Kink & Improv 🛠 Rage & Grief Release 🛠 Self-Regulation Tools
Your Investment
“The quality of your life, is the quality of your relationships”
But beautiful relationships don’t just happen - they require work and investment.
We know our programme is an investment. It’s worth it when you consider how much time and energy we waste on relationships that don’t fulfil us, or suppress our authentic selves!
This course teaches the single most (secret-not-so-secret) ingredient to help you elevate the intimacy in your life.
Make conflict your friend. And you will have deeper relationships.
£600
before 1 Sept
Online
£700
✅ 6 x 2-hour weekly online sessions
✅ Access to teaching materials & recordings for life
✅ Conflict labs for supervised practice
FAQs
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100%. There’s a reason we interview every single one of you before accepting you on the course. We only want to bring on humans who we truly believe are ready for this work. Who could benefit from the transformation we offer here.
If you’re halfway through the course and somehow not vibing with the journey, come and speak to us. We celebrate authentic and honest feedback (as you can probably tell by the intent of this course ;)). In fact, it will be an unexpected gift for you to put your conflict skills into practice!
We will find a solution for you to get what you came for. We’re confident.
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We want this course to be as impactful as possible. If you’re worried about the investment, ask yourself how you would value your current most intimate relationships and connection skills.
The course is intended to be deeply embodied, not a cheap fix you can read in a book.
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Here are the steps:
Apply now by signing up for a 30-minute slot in Georgie or Haneen’s calendar.
In this call, we will ask you about your motivation for joining & the challenges you might have in your relationships. It will help us assess if it’s a good fit, as we only want to take on people we know we can truly help! Please read the “Who this is for” and “Who this is not for” sections before booking a slot. We will also answer any questions you have.
If you are accepted, you will be sent a form to register and a payment link.
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You’re welcome to attend a taster workshop. To be announced soon!
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This is a tight & holistic course on communication. We have studied & practiced being empowered communicators for the last 10 years. Georgie & Haneen live and breathe this work, and as a result, we have a beautiful shared community of crazy & talented friends with whom we can be completely candid.
…. where our “no” is celebrated
…..where any friction gets addressed lovingly
…..where our friends get excited by us bringing up our needs!
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It’s true. This could happen. So, I’ll start by making a disclaimer. It WILL shift your relationship to those in your life. There may, in fact, be more disharmony in your relationships to start with as your communication patterns shift. There may even be relationships that shed and no longer feel aligned. You will no longer have tolerance for BS.
But we are prepared. We will make sure you don’t pretentiously flex your new communication skills and end up alienating your loved ones. We’re learning these skills to empower both of you in conflict.
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If this programme isn’t right for you now, you can join one of our other respective programmes.
Georgie’s Programmes
Join Georgie this spring to transform your conversations, learning the tools and mindsets to have a meaningful conversation with anyone, anywhere. Apply here.
Haneens’s Programmes
2 x 70 min 1:1 coaching deep dives (£300) with Haneen to unpack your current communication challenges, and leave with the key tools to freshly approach your relationships from a more empowered place.
A 3-hour online course (£180) on how to have a more empowered & liberated s*x life- an authentic human-ing course in disguise.
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Awesome people. There will be 16 of you. Many of you around 30s, 40s - fairly self-aware, people who place a high value in authentic relating. A mix of people from Europe and perhaps a few from abroad!!
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It’s totally up to you. If it were me, YES. I would! It’s easier when couples have the same language and tools to grow together. It can be harder when only one half of the couple does the work.
Sign up for our taster events on 25 August, 7 Sept, and 22 Sept.
We'll help you notice when this triggered response takes over, prevents you from leaning into connection, and share powerful alternative responses.
Recordings will be available.