The Honest Date
What is it like to date you?
I hear from men all the time…
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🧊 You get in your head
when you’re attracted to a woman you meet & like. You end up attracting the ‘wrong’ women because it’s easier to be yourself when attraction isn’t there.
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😬 You worry about being needy
or coming across as seedy, or creepy. Initiating sexual interest feels risky. So you play it safe & get friend-zoned.
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🫣 You feel pressure to be ...
the hot, confident, playful guy who has shit together. “Am I interesting enough? What are they thinking? Did I say the right thing?”
So… to help with that, I created The Honest Date.
What is The Honest Date?
You take me out for a date. I give you HONEST in-depth feedback about how you come across. And how to create the attraction you really want.
How do I run it? 👇🏼
BEFORE
👉🏼 I’ll ask you to fill in a few questions, so I can hear more about your dating desires & concerns.
👉🏼 I’ll send you the pretend backdrop (context) of the date & we’ll schedule it.
DURING
👉🏼 We will go through the whole date (1 hour-ish)
👉🏼 We’ll transition to feedback. I’ll share everything I felt/observed (getting your input too).
AFTER
👉🏼 After the date, you’ll receive a concrete summary of your strengths & growth edges on dates (including practical tips to implement)
What do I review?
Here are the aspects of a date that I pay attention to, so you get a 360 of what it’s like to date you. I’ll share my honest impressions & how to reliably connect with the women you’re attracted to. 📝♥️
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🧠 You actively listen and reflect
🧠 You don’t have an agenda around conversation (it’s not an interview!)
🧠 You can “yes-and” what she’s saying so you can build on topics
🧠 You are clear & coherent
🧠 You ask sincere & curious questions -
♥️ You make her feel seen (touch, care, empathy, reflecting back)
♥️ You are expressive in your tone, body language & facial expressions
♥️ You invite moments of pausing & engaging with the senses & immediate environment
♥️ You share & invite vulnerability from a place of sincerity
♥️ You communicate your desires honestly, and ask for hers -
🍑 You’re comfortable in silence
🍑 You’re comfortable taking risk
🍑 You share what attracts you to this person (a compliment that arises organically)
🍑 You bring your flavour of playfulness (humour, silliness)
🍑 You bring in attuned touch -
💋 Clarity & leadership - so she feels held in the date
💋 Check in -what do they want? Asking consent questions to get their opt-in.
💋 Greeting (first impressions, hugs, decision on the plan)
💋 Thoughtful gestures
💋 Handling payment -
This date is about building your confidence & owning your strengths too! Maybe you’ve been critical of how you come across in dates. We don’t want to just feed the voice in your head about “how to improve”.
I think it’s important to own what you love about yourself. My favourite part is sharing all the elements that come through in your personality, that I adore! -
✔️ How to handle touch, kissing etc.
✔️ Managing expectations on calling, texting, or a next date (or not)
✔️ What to do if you DON’T want another date (no ghosting).
✔️ Sharing your honest feelings & asking how she feels.
✔️ Expressing gratitude and compliments
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✍🏼 Tell me your name
✍🏼 Ask me any questions
✍🏼 I’ll share my availability
✔️ The result?
👉🏼 You feel confident approaching hot women you previously wouldn’t have.
👉🏼 You understand how to reliably generate flow, humour & spark in a date! (in a way that feels authentic to you)
👉🏼 You find more ease in striking up & maintaining conversation, in a way that makes her feel alive.
👉🏼 You know how to invite more sexual tension, how to flirt, and how to be more attuned to non-verbal cues & touch
👉🏼 You can confidently communicate your desires — in a way that is welcomed & gratefully received.
£375
for a 2(ish) hour date & feedback
Testimonials from the men who have gone on an Honest Date!
Integration + Follow Up (after The Honest Date)
I would recommend supporting your experience, with a few 1:1 sessions.
🌱 We’ll go much deeper into your patterns around women — so that we can address any parts that stop you from fully being yourself.
🌱 I’ll support you to re-connect with your sexuality freely, so you don’t have to “manage” or shame your erotic desires.
🌱 We’ll redefine masculinity on your terms — so you can feel more confident in bed, flirt with ease, and communicate your desires… whilst also feeling surrendered around this.
FAQ’s
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When I meet you, we’ll go into the date straight away. (Pretending it’s a first date).
We’ll keep going for an hour, and then we’ll find a natural pause. I’ll do a full date debrief & feedback session for the second hour.
I’ll share a bit more context behind the date, once we’ve scheduled it in. -
Well, I live in London (UK) but I often travel — so contact me if you live in a different city. I’ll see if I’m available.
We’ll choose a mutually convenient place to meet…. could be a walk along a canal, and café drop-in. But we can be creative and do an activity. I’m open to your preferences :) -
We will have pause words (stop & start) — so we’ll say: “PAUSE” to pause the date and talk as coach & client …..and then “PLAY” to resume the date.
However, it’s likely that I’ll leave all feedback towards the end, so we can be in flow with it! Otherwise it’s a bit jolt-y.
The exception is if I notice there’s something repeatedly happening, that might be getting in the way of connection. In which case, I’ll pause and share, so you have a chance to take on the feedback. -
Absolutely. I’ve had all flavours of people on The Honest Date — from lawyers & bankers to conscious entrepreneurs who have dipped into tantra & other adjacent communities.
I will send round a mini questionnaire beforehand, to get an idea of what dating is like for you, how you get in your head, and what’s important in terms of the impression you make.
It helps me tailor my feedback — as I pick up on a lot of subtlety and nuance. -
Depending on how it goes - I’d recommend a second date so you can practice the suggested feedback & compare before and after! 🙌🏼
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Totally different.
These are not tools that you incorporate to ‘score’ a woman. I don’t want you to “play a part”.
I want you to be more yourself.
I’ll help you be aware of women’s desires around romantic & sexual attraction — so you have conscious awareness of what you’re doing on a date …..and how to create that attraction & tension in a way that feels, sexy, sincere and authentic to you. -
My physical boundaries during the date are: no mouth touching or mouth kissing, no touching breasts/genitals.
Otherwise I’m all good - e.g. coming in close to “almost” kiss me, holding hands, stroking my hair, caressing my face, touching my leg etc etc.
If you would kiss me in the real date you can do the lead up to it, all the anticipation etc…. and then share out loud that this would be the part you would kiss me. ;)
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Yes, you absolutely can. I will send you a written summary afterwards as well :)
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After the date, I’ll give feedback on whether there was any sexual tension or chemistry built in the date…. and how to generate that!
Most men are afraid of showing their sexual interest (and end up being safe & platonic) because they aren’t fully embodying their sexual energy.
However to go beyond awareness & make a bigger difference to your relationship to sex- I would recommend 1:1 coaching together.